You cannot fail at loving your enemies, or you will fail at loving your most intimate loved ones. And, your very own self. (YOU are your worst enemy… and you “know” it.)
Author Archives: Neil Durso
The ‘Egology’ of Relationships (HONESTY part 4 of 5)
Repetitive secret retaliation is how resentment and contempt take root and evolve, in the tragic ecosystem (egosystem) of shame.
The misTery of Twelve Step truth requires true love (HONESTY part 3 of 5)
“The truth will set you free,” (John 8:32) and I always feel compelled to add, “But first it will make you miserable.”
Who hurts more: Your partner or you? (HONESTY part 2 of 5)
Loved ones who hurt you deserve blame for hurting you, but they do NOT deserve blame for causing you to hurt them back. Hypocrisy is another imperfection, not an excuse.
To believe you are a loving person (HONESTY part 1 of 5)
The power of kind/loving acts is illusory if it rests atop ignorance and/or denial of the unconscious.
HONESTY – “Dark” Index
…one must face reality to learn how to be comfortable within it. Step one: Face the real you. To do so demands that you learn about your inner self, and *seek* exposition of your darkest flaws.
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