You cannot fail at loving your enemies, or you will fail at loving your most intimate loved ones. And, your very own self. (YOU are your worst enemy… and you “know” it.)
Loved ones who hurt you deserve blame for hurting you, but they do NOT deserve blame for causing you to hurt them back. Hypocrisy is another imperfection, not an excuse.
The power of kind/loving acts is illusory if it rests atop ignorance and/or denial of the unconscious.